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January 2014: A New Year!

Welcome to 2014! A new year begins. Our thoughts are of the new dreams, promises and hopes as the future starts with the calendar date of January 1, 2014.

My thinking is this is a new period. A new time so it is time for a new me. Handsome, slim, muscular, elegant and with an English accent like Pierce Bronson/James Bond, Hollywood famous with people requesting my presence at their parties and others seeking my wisdom and comments on how the world should be ran according to Paul Hogan. Oh, and also Bill Gates/Warren Buffet rich and beloved by all.

The challenge is what I bring to the table from December 31, 2013. Me. A little older, a little overweight (which I’m working on), not Hollywood famous or handsome (at least by society’s standards) and not with a Hollywood physique. No one from Hollywood invited me to a single party last year. No reporters or television hosts like Jay Leno asked for my opinions. No one asked me to rule the world or their world, nor manage their finances.

What to do? Here’s what I’ve learned from my, and others, experiences and stories. The late coach Jimmy Valvano said, “Each day you need to laugh, you need to think, you need to have the emotion to cry and if you do that’s a pretty good day.” He wrote his dreams (one was to win a basketball national championship for North Carolina State Wolfpack) on notecards he carried. He won the championship in 1983. It’s a great idea – get those dreams out of your head and onto paper. Maybe even be crazy and as some life coaches like Lee Milteer suggest, create a vision board with pictures of your dreams and put it where you can see it every day.

I believe these are great ideas, it’s important to have dreams, plans and goals. I also believe in focusing on one day at a time. Trying to be the best me I can be, one day at a time. As Mohammed Ali said when unexpectedly asked to make a poem, “Whee me,” which broke the old record of the shortest poem which had been three words.

Tony Robbins writes when focusing on how to inspire yourself (and he was not talking about money, material things or fame) you need to zero in on the questions. For example, it’s not the question – Why do others have love and I don’t? – because our negative brain will answer our negative question. Your brain answers – because you are emotionally cold and critical. So the right question to ask yourself is, “Who do I love?” and “Who loves me?” Here’s some other questions to ask yourself to help condition your brain to find answers that are positive:

  • What do you feel great about?
  • What am I excited about today?
  • What about myself am I proud about today?
  • What am I happy about today?
  • What am I grateful for today?

Try asking yourself these questions for 30 days and see if you notice a change in you and how you think.

Happy New Year 2014!

P.S. – By focusing on being the best we can be each day, during the last two years my office has received a “10” satisfaction rating from every single client, who responded to my survey, at settlement. We would like to earn
a “10” rating from your family or friends referred to us by you.